Finally, A “Grownup Way” To Carry Condoms

Finally, A “Grownup Way” To Carry Condoms

We all know that the Wedding Industrial Complex isn’t just about weddings. It’s about a whole slew of social mores and gender imbalances that start with baby’s-first-tiara and end somewhere between, well… sometimes I think it doesn’t ever end. The complex is also inextricably intertwined with the dating landscape and expectations about female sexuality. So … Continue reading

The Great Name-Changing Debate: Part I

The Great Name-Changing Debate: Part I

One of the most annoying trends I’ve noticed as I scour the Pinterest universe procrastinating looking for inspiration is the proliferation of wedding paraphernalia advertising the bride’s future name. Things like wedding dress hangers spelling out “Mrs. [his last name]” in hand-fitted wire, or hoodies with the words “Future Mrs …” bedazzled on the back. … Continue reading

The Inherent Conventionality of Unconventional Weddings

The Inherent Conventionality of Unconventional Weddings

“Fauxbivalence” – that’s Phoebe Maltz-Bovy’s term for “women who do want in on the institution [of marriage], but who find this somehow embarrassing.” It’s a growing phenomenon among upper-middle-class, well-educated, urban-dwellers, and since I’ve started planning my wedding, I’ve noticed it too. Some of my friends may even think I’ve succumbed to it, although I’ll happily admit … Continue reading

Are Marriage Proposals Sexist?

Are Marriage Proposals Sexist?

When Slate’s Amanda Marcotte wrote about the enduring nature of sexist marriage proposals last December, comments poured in from readers both in support of and in frustration with her claims. Many pointed out that they had not, in fact, gotten engaged in a traditional matter, and that a poll of college student opinions doesn’t accurately reflect the intentions and realities … Continue reading