Would you want this ring?

Would you want this ring?

Introducing the rockless engagement ring – all of the symbolism, none of the (human) cost: Here’s the concept, via SashaPure: “Little girls grow up dreaming of it, big girls get jealous over it, and advertisers cash big checks on it. sashaPure questions which part of the ring is the most important—the shine of the gem sitting … Continue reading

The Inherent Conventionality of Unconventional Weddings

The Inherent Conventionality of Unconventional Weddings

“Fauxbivalence” – that’s Phoebe Maltz-Bovy’s term for “women who do want in on the institution [of marriage], but who find this somehow embarrassing.” It’s a growing phenomenon among upper-middle-class, well-educated, urban-dwellers, and since I’ve started planning my wedding, I’ve noticed it too. Some of my friends may even think I’ve succumbed to it, although I’ll happily admit … Continue reading

Are Marriage Proposals Sexist?

Are Marriage Proposals Sexist?

When Slate’s Amanda Marcotte wrote about the enduring nature of sexist marriage proposals last December, comments poured in from readers both in support of and in frustration with her claims. Many pointed out that they had not, in fact, gotten engaged in a traditional matter, and that a poll of college student opinions doesn’t accurately reflect the intentions and realities … Continue reading

My Engagement Story

My Engagement Story

My fiancé proposed to me by hiding a ring in my hash browns at a Waffle House just off of Interstate 185 in Columbus, Georgia. The ring was in the gravy, and I almost mistook it for a chunk of pork sausage. When I realized what it was, he climbed out of our booth, got down on one knee, and asked me to marry him. A trucker sitting at … Continue reading